It’s easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow car.
It’s easy to spot opportunity when you are always thinking of opportunity.
It’s easy to spot reasons to be mad when you are always thinking of being mad.
You become what you constantly think about. Watch yourself.
Back in early 2020 BC (before COVID) I was back home (Dublin, Ireland) and met an old friend for a pint. Guinness, in case you were wondering. At the time he was struggling to find work after spending time abroad. As the pints sank he turned to me and said: ‘I’m so glad I met up with you tonight, you’re always so positive!’. It turns out, the previous week he had met with another friend who seemingly did not share my optimism. This had brought further cloudiness during this already tough time. — It is worth noting I was also unemployed.
As the pints sank, we discussed possible opportunities and options that were available to us. We recalled previous endeavours and tried to identify why they had deviated from their optimal outcome. So, why was I not feeling the same way? Some people are extremely fortunate or unfortunate depending on your personal opinion to spend their entire career in one place. For me, it was simple, I don’t see being unemployed as a negative, I see it as an opportunity. It allows me to think, what next? it allows me to re-evaluate previous roles and next moves. If you find yourself in a similar situation, make sure to take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Find things to aim for.
Turn your dreams into aspirations. It may require some tweaking to make them more realistic, but it doesn’t mean they will be any less rewarding, in fact, it may make them even more so. After all, you will be more likely to achieve them. Looking back to when I have put this into practice, the outcomes have been extremely favourable. Make sure to include a time frame too, you don’t want to make it too easy, but it will help to keep you focused.
One particular aspiration of mine was to save enough money to buy my own MacBook. Believe it or not, something seemingly so simplex ended up with my relocation to New York and is a story by itself. All I’m saying is, by making your dreams slightly more achievable you never know what you can accomplish.
Your aspirations can be as big or as small as you want to make them. It could be to run 5K or to graduate with honours. But here’s the thing… it’s not what you aspire to, it’s how you go about getting there.